Rewriting the Introvert Reference Manual

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TIA Reference Manual

TIA Reference Manual

There are so many adjectives used to describe or try to define introverts that have such a negative connotation.  It is well past time to change the language associated with introverts and remove the stigmas attached to introversion.  Hence, the “Introvert Reference Manual.”


When you think of a loner, you may think of it in terms of a person that separates himself away from others or as some dark place (figuratively or mentally) where they go because they don’t like people.

If you must say something, instead of calling an introvert a loner why not just say that person values time spent alone.  That sounds so much better than calling them a loner and the negativity immediately removed?


Not all introverts are shy and there is such a thing as a shy extrovert (but for some people, that’s different).  Instead of calling introverts shy which isn’t necessarily true, why call them anything at all?  Why can’t you simply acknowledge to yourself that perhaps that person doesn’t have anything to say at the time and so be it.


What’s so wrong with reading.  Bookworm automatically carries the connotation that the person is either boring or does not care to do fun stuff (fun by your standard that is).

Rather than making it seem like reading is a negative thing, why not say just say that person loves to read? When was the last time you read a book that was not required of you to read?  I mean really, how can you diminish expanding one’s mind by gaining knowledge.


Before I begin, let me say that introverts already know where I’m heading with this.  People are always saying something like “she’s not “like” the other kids or he’s nothing “like” his brother.  How about this one, they are not playing “like” the other kids.

Don’t we teach our kids to be their authentic selves and to not try to impress people by trying to be something that they are not.  Yet introverts are given the impression that they are not good enough. From a very young age, the message is you should be more “like” someone else.

As usual it’s a good idea to choose your words carefully.  Factor in that you’re referencing a real person and how your words may affect that person.  Bookmark this handy little Introvert Reference Manual for future reference.  It may just come in handy.

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